As I get closer to my 40th birthday, I’ve been thinking about some pearls of wisdom I’ve received over the years.
Or as I like to call them: myths.
Myth #1 – Perception is Reality
The person who told me this was the least genuine person I have ever met.
Friends, reality is reality. If you don’t take the time to determine the reality of the situation, you’re intellectually lazy. Listen, if your perception of me is wrong, that’s on you; it’s most certainly not on me.
Myth #2 – You’re Disrespecting Veterans if You “Blank” or Don’t “blank.”
In the run-up to the last provincial election, I made it publicly known that I was declining the vote.
I was surprised to find that I had a little support. People were telling me that it was disrespectful to not vote because soldiers died for our freedom. Well, what our soldiers actually died for is a completely different post, but let’s say they did die for freedom. Doesn’t freedom give me the right to do as I choose?
To some friends, apparently not.
MYTH #3 – You Need to Get a Real Job
Why? So I can be a sheep just like you? No thanks.
Apparently, you need to grab the first job you find and then be forever grateful to your employer. Sure, be forever grateful to an employer who will replace you in a heartbeat, whether you deserve it or not.
Of course, incompetence being rewarded is a little bit of a pet peeve of mine. And since I have such little patience for incompetence—which “real jobs” are rife with—and I’m not good at masking my true feelings, I don’t do so well.
A quick aside: an employment counselor once gave me a hard time because I wouldn’t take a job that involved getting someone else’s children ready for school. It didn’t matter to her when I asked, “Who would ensure my own kids got ready for school?”
myth #4 – respect your elders
Respect is earned not given. Being old doesn’t give you the right to be an ass (Mom, please read that as donkey).
Of course, It was instilled in me at a young age to never call adults by their first name; it was always Mr., Mrs., Miss, Ms., Ma’am, or Sir. Close friends of the family got honorary titles of Uncle, Aunt, etc. I treat people with respect because that is how I want to be treated, and I still don’t necessarily treat people who deserve it poorly.
However, if you need a good old fashion scolding, I don’t care how old you are.
myth #5 – Work HARD So you Get paid
Sure, there are many people who have worked their tails off and have been rewarded with big bucks. Yet, there’s just as many, probably more, who will never make more than minimum wage—or less.
Explain this to someone who’s worked two or three jobs their whole life to take care of themselves and their family. Chances are they won’t ever make big money. This one is nothing more than a big scam from self-help gurus and “middle-class” politicians.
Here’s the truth. Most pearls of wisdom are bogus.
This post sounds like it comes from a bitter place, but it’s not; it comes from an imperfect being who wasted a little too much time not listening to himself.
Until next time, live your life and love the people who make life worth living.
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